Spending the first two months in Singapore gave me an ample time to reassess my life and the year that was. Trying to view life in a backward manner, you get a sense of why things happened and slowly begin to understand why the universe had to restructure itself so that life would unfold as it is. Admittedly, the past two months, and the year per se was not a smooth sailing journey for me. I had my dose of frustrations, disappointments, happiness and surprises. Thinking about it now, I believe it is universe’s way of balancing things– you can never be too happy all throughout; or at least, happiness is something you work for and strive to achieve everyday. It is definitely a choice. Needless to say, despite all the difficulties, I managed to extract whatever happy moments that I can get from this.
I was overwhelmed by the change that is looming before me. I try mightily to cling unto the life I have back then– it is a constant struggle of choice between the setting I hold so dearly versus the thing that I’ve always dreamed of and wanted from the very start. It is choosing between two great things; the only deciding factor is which weighs more, especially that I have been in a relationship for a year now.
You see, before I left, I had a hard time reconciling with the fact that I need to leave everything behind in few months time. “Travel light,” I constantly remind myself. “You need to cut off the extra and unnecessary baggage, unless you want to pay the price.”
That is easier said than done. Selfish as it may sound, I want to take everything with me. I would like to make as much moments and memories strong enough to make people not forget. I would like to convince myself that everything would stay the way they are.
But they won’t. People change, things will change. In as much as I am anticipating new things and experiences to come to my life, and so will there be in the lives of the people I will leave behind.
Change. I just hope it is always for the better.
In my attempt to make sense of these things, I listed five life lessons I learned these past few months living alone, and my stay here in Singapore as an OFW.
1. Life is simple. It is the way it is. You get what you give, and receive what you deserve. A lot of people over analyze things (I myself included) when in fact, the secret to understanding life is trying to less complicate things. I don’t even know if this is the job for me! I am just thankful that it pays the bill!
2. We are all products of our choices. Our lives are our own making. Now it doesn’t matter to me if we make right choices or not– we all learn from our past mistakes. What is more important is making conscious choices, so that we live with no regrets. It is being aware of who you are becoming and not blaming whoever for the choices you make. This I realized after I made peace with a very important part of myself, to the people I love.
3. Always be in a constant state of gratitude. There are one hundred and one reasons to be thankful for the life you got. So smile often!!!
4. Don’t be afraid to let people in. Once in a while, we need to push for something beyond the pain just doing it alone. And though it requires a lot of courage to take someone in, I believe it is still worth every risk. It becomes the basis of having something or someone to come home to.
5. Change is an inevitable and sometimes inconvenient fact of life. But if we learn how to handle things and stir life in our preferred direction, then change is good.
I guess for most part, we just have to live with no regrets, just love.